Do you often feel the weekend comes and goes and you sit on a Sunday evening, rather dishevelled thinking, what the heckety heck happened? You’re not alone! And most importantly we amongst a nation of women who have become terrible about making ‘me time’ a necessity rather than a luxury.
Another crazy weekend happened! Just like that. In a complete whirlwind of shopping, cooking, cleaning, cinema, teaching little one to ride his bike, swimming etc.
I realised this morning, that I didn’t make time for myself.
How often have you found yourself thinking?
- “I wish I had more time for myself.”
- “Life is so busy!”
- “I don’t have a moment to breathe.”
- “There needs to be 48 hours in the day.”
- “I don’t have time for that.”
We lead crazy, busy lives. And the one thing that’s a rarity is making me time.
Not only do we not make time for ourselves, we endeavour to work harder, longer hours, anything to makes ends meet, to pay for that new gadget that’s just been released, pay for the extra-curricular activities your children ‘need’ to go on, to push harder and harder until there is nothing left for us.
Creating more time for ourselves
Creating more personal time tops the list of goals many people want to accomplish. With work time, partner or family time and social time all demanding our attention, we are constantly juggling our day-to-day responsibilities.
It’s not healthy. For yourself or your family. Finding as little as 15-30 minutes a day of uninterrupted, relaxing “me” time is challenging at best.
Make your wish list
To get that passion (not that sort of passion!) going, why not make a wish list.
Write down all the activities that you long to do more of, for example:-
- I wish I could have a long relaxing bath with no disruptions
- If only I could have an hour to sit quietly to read a book
- I’d love to be transported to a desert island!
Ok, the latter may be trickier to achieve, but you get my drift. Instead of the desert island, you could fix it with a simple walk on the beach, barefooted on the sand and the sound of the waves that relax you.
Decide what’s important
Decide out of your list, the order of importance to you, then pick one or two to focus on.
Now take a look at your diary. Write down for the next week EVERYTHING you do, so you have a realistic view of your timetable.
You will either think to yourself “Wow, no wonder I don’t know if I’m coming or going and have no time for myself!”. Of course, you may be surprised by how little time you spend doing things and start to see a regular gap in your schedule.
What can you give up?
Now ask yourself a key question “are you spending your time on the right things?”.
In turn, you must look at what is not necessary: –
- What can you outsource?
- Can you share chores amongst the family?
- What can you give less attention too, that doesn’t really need the 100% attention that you’ve previously given it?
What are the distractions?
I’m talking TV, Radio, Mobile phones, especially social media! I will hold my hands up if I log onto social media I can be lost there for a good hour. Coming away more stressed and having accomplished nothing other than looking at other peoples lives, or funny videos and memes! So turn them off and give yourself that space and time!
Having gone through the tasks above, now look at your schedule again. Rewrite this with the real times, without the added distractions and you’ll be surprised how you can make yourself some time!
Don’t forget you need to schedule your sleep too! Some may need just 6 hours and others need a full 8 hours, be true to yourself and write in your sleep schedule.
Write a simple list every evening for the next day. You’ll go to bed feeling better for knowing what’s going on the following day, there will be no surprises like getting to school to find out its non-uniform day when your child is sobbing in the car with their full uniform on!
The Key to success
Is consistency. That’s it. You have to week in week out, look at your crazy busy schedules, and book yourself in the diary.
- Get rid, give away and tasks that you don’t need to do and that others can take from you.
- Minimise distractions
- Go through your schedule with a fine toothcomb and reschedule with exact times. Don’t forget to add in your sleeping times.
- Enjoy your free time and fill it with something you’ve been yearning for!
- Every evening, write a simple list for the following day, cross off as you go through them.
- Be consistent. Do this daily and you’ll consistently find and enjoy time that is just for you.
I’d love to hear how you get your ‘me’ time fix! Do let me know in the comments.